I’m one of those people who like to have a clear and steady routine for every day of the week. Sure, my Monday’s and Tuesday’s might be different because that’s just how college life works, but if, for instance, my Tuesday schedule varies, that’s a whole other story. Some people call this being a control freak, others say you should just go with the flow, but it’s what keeps me sane!
However, once you get stuck in a schedule for too long, things start to seem stagnant. You want to keep moving forward, but the world around you is staying exactly the same. Either that or other people in your life are going through all sorts of motions, and your life doesn’t seem to be moving anywhere. Either way you look at it, it’s not too fun.
I’m at a period in my life right now where I am beyond ready to move on to the next step, but I have to jump through one more pretty important hoop: my last semester of college.
It was my sophomore year when my advisor first mentioned that I could probably graduate a semester early, even with a minor. I was like “No way, homie,” and insisted she find a way for me to stay all four years. We eventually settled on me taking a light class load my last few semesters which would allow me to roll out with ease. Fast forward to this past Easter. I was taking a walk around campus and I realized I didn’t want to be here anymore. I went to visit my advisor, told her my decision, and we started the steps I needed to take to get me out of school in December.
Fast forward to today, and I can’t even begin to remember why I wanted to stay in school for an “extra” semester (aka graduate with the rest of my class). I am ready to get out into the real world and start #adulting, and I barely have enough motivation to finish THIS semester. I mean, obviously I will because I need this degree to get to the places I want to get to, but dang it’s harder than I thought it would be.
Anyway, this feeling of being stuck can get really frustrating, especially when you’re not sure when the feeling will end. However, there are many ways that you can deal with it until a new opportunity comes your way!
Find a way to express your feelings
Whether you prefer to write in a journal or talk to a friend or family member, find a way to get all your feelings off your chest. If you bottle it up, you’re going to feel more stuck because you’ll feel alone. The truth is, no matter who you choose to talk to, they are likely to have gone through a similar situation. Everyone feels stuck at some point in their lives, and they may give you the advice you need to get out of it!
Seriously, though. God bless my mother for being patient when I complain to her. I’m sure I sound very redundant at times, but talking it out works really well for me.
If neither journaling nor talking it out sounds good for you, then check out this website called The Thoughts Room. You type in everything you’re thinking about, and it’ll dissolve into the background. You still get the catharsis you need without leaving any trace of it!
Actively look for new opportunities
No, I’m not saying you should dedicate your life to looking for a new job or activity, but you should definitely keep your eyes open. Check your emails regularly, follow job boards (both local and national), and ask people if they know of any leads. Even just a hint of a new opportunity has the potential to change your mindset.
You should also keep your mind open when you do this. Something may not seem like the right fit at first, but it could turn out to be perfect for you!
Start making little changes that you can control
Many times, the source of your stuck feelings is something you can’t really control or fix. If you’re a control freak like me, that can just drive you up the wall. Something I started doing is changing other aspects of my life to make myself happier.
For instance, you could start eating healthier and going to the gym. As Queen Elle Woods said, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy!”
You could also take up a new hobby! My roommate recently picked up embroidery, and that could do a lot of things for her. Not only is it a way that she can distract herself, but she could actually take her designs and sell them on Etsy! I don’t think she’s planning to do that, but it’s always a possibility.
Keep in mind that this too shall pass
So this last one isn’t really something you can do to get out of your stuck-ness, rather its a mindset to keep during it. In today’s age, it’s soooo easy to stay focused on the now instead of the future. I mean think about it, we’re just a few swipes or clicks away from knowing exactly where are friends are, what they’re doing, and where they plan to be. This can be quite discouraging if you’re not going at the same pace as them.
Just know that this feeling of not moving forward will pass. One day, opportunity will come knocking at your door and you will be unstoppable! Just be patient, and take one day at a time.
Has anyone else felt this feeling? How did you get through it? I’d love to hear about it, so leave a comment!
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