How To Navigate Single Life In Your 20’s

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I wouldn’t consider myself an expert at very many things. I mean, I’m pretty good at making puns, and I’m pretty skilled at eating a whole bag of M&M’s in one go, but we all have our limits sometimes. One thing I can say for certain that I’m an expert at is being single.

This month marks two years of my single-dom. And before that? A little over 18 1/2 years of life. In today’s age, it kind of makes me feel like a unicorn. I mean, there are people I went to HIGH SCHOOL with who are already getting married, and I’m only 21! It seems like every time I log into Facebook I see someone else getting engaged. Meanwhile, I’m drinking wine and googling “minimum age to be on the bachelor/bachelorette” (p.s. the minimum age is 21! bachelor mansion, here i come!).

All jokes aside, the single life isn’t all that bad. I mean, you don’t have to share food, no one judges you when you sing off key to One Direction songs (except for friends), and you don’t have to put your life on hold for anyone!

Wow, that last bit made me sound kind of witchy, huh? Well, too bad, because that’s the main premise of this blog post! So if you are hopelessly in love 20-something, you probably won’t be able to relate to this post. Enjoy!

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Learn how to love yourself

First thing’s first, walk up to your mirror/pull out your iPhone front-facing camera and say the following to your reflection: You are strong. You are beautiful. You are worth loving.

That last part is really key. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you aren’t worth loving, so go out there and TREAT YOSELF! Give yourself all the things that you want, within parameters of course. If you can’t afford a 6 month European vacation, you probably shouldn’t go on one. Here are some slightly more affordable alternatives that can still give you a fuzzy feeling:

  1. Get a mani/pedi
  2. Hang out with your gal pals
  3. Work out or do yoga. Get that blood pumping!
  4. Go on a week-long European vacation (much less expensive!)

Try to ignore society’s pressures

So WHAT if your mom’s friend’s niece is getting married at 22 years old when you can’t even get a guy to text you back? So WHAT if your last single friend got herself a boyfriend, making you the designated odd wheel to any group outing? You are a strong independent woman who don’t need no man.

You have to come to terms that you are a magical human living among mere mortals, and you have to wait until you find your perfect magical human counterpart. Until then, rock the single life, girlfriend! Tell society to frick off!

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Get off those crazy dating apps

Swipe left on Tinder, Bumble, and whatever other dating app you use. 98% of the guys who use those are douche canoes and you deserve better than that! I know, dating in 2017 is hard. How do you meet people? Ed Sheeran said (sang?) it best: “The club isn’t the best place to find a lover, so the bar is where I go.” While I would argue that the bar isn’t the best place either, the point is that you can’t force a relationship. The best relationships are one that spark from a chance encounter or some other rom-com crap I guess.

The point is, Tinder is not the place to go if you want a long-lasting relationship. Let’s just leave it at that.

Take any opportunity given to you

The best part about being single is not having to plan around other people. I mean, sure, you might want to stay in  your home-state to be close to your family, but at least you won’t have to stay there just to be close to your high school boyfriend! If you’re single, you can take any job offer at any corner of the world without looking back. You can travel anywhere without toting extra baggage (get it? baggage? travel?).

Honestly, just carry on as usual

The single life isn’t some sort of disease that will plague you for eternity. It’s just a state you’re currently in! I promise you that if you carry on as you usually do, things will work out in your favor. You will be happy, you will be healthy, and some day love will find you. You just have to be patient.

Do any other ladies have advice for living the single life? Leave them in the comments for me (and other strong, independent women) to find!

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39 Comment

  1. Alissa Carpenter says: Reply

    The loving yourself part is huge and spending the time to figure out what you want. I can’t even with those apps (reality vs. expectations)!

  2. As someone who wasn’t in a serious relationship all through college and is still single now, I agree with all of these! Yes girl! And YES to dating app boys being douche canoes! Some of my friends have actually met serious partners on there and I’m like ??? HOW

    xoxo A
    http://www.southernbelleintraining.com

    1. I have no idea how people get serious relationships from them! So crazy!!

  3. There is nothing wrong with being single in your 20’s it gives to time to explore who you are and what you want in life

  4. I looove this! Carrying on and letting things fall into place is seriously the best thing you can do. I was in a very, very long relationship until about a year ago. It’s a huge change after being with someone for over 5 years, but it really is the little things that help you get through and make you feel better and focus on YOU! Single life isn’t all that bad, and when the cards fall into place, you know it’ll be meant!

    Great post! xo

    1. Thanks Adriana!

  5. I don’t think there is any need to rush through life. I feel like those that are marrying young are maybe wishing they experienced the single life and focused on learning to love themselves before they took on loving someone else.

    1. I’d like to think that!

  6. I love this. I am an expert of singleness myself so high five. I tend to be up and down about how I’m feeling. Sometimes I’m totally a-okay being a strong independent woman and other times I’m a sad pathetic mess. But I’m learning that the longer I stay on the rollercoaster, the easier it gets! Absolutely 100% agree that you have to love yourself and work on YOU first.

    1. Girl, I feel ya! Thanks for reading!

  7. Your advice about ignoring society’s pressures is on point. I’m actually in my mid-twenties and married, but even then, there’s STILL comparisons. Why aren’t I pregnant? When do I plan on having kids? The only thing you can do is be true to yourself and stop the comparison game.

    1. I totally understand how that would be a struggle too! Societal pressures are the worst

  8. ‘Try to ignore societal pressure’! That’s my main struggle haha.

    1. Haha same here girl!

  9. Love this Anna!! Seriously, being single in your 20s is such a great opportunity to learn who you are, date yourself, and find the person that best compliments you rather than settling out of comfort! These are awesome tips and reminders <3

    1. Ahh thanks Rachel!

  10. I love this post so much! Being single is so great. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my boyfriend and we have an awesome relationship but I honestly think it’s because I was single by choice for so long. I got in a lot of me time. Mike and I didn’t start dating until I was 24 and he is my first serious boyfriend. I always chose being single instead of dating for convenience and I really think it paid off because I now have a really wonderful partner.

    1. That’s a great story, Michelle!

  11. Love reading your blogpost! Thanks for sharing.

    X Merel
    http://www.andathousandwords.com

  12. That last tip is totally spot on!!! Although I have heard of a few positive relationships coming out of dating apps, but I think consolidation is key xD

    1. Haha thanks Sophia!

  13. Molly | Miss Molly Moon says: Reply

    These are such great tips! I’m 10 years older and have only been married for three years. Those single years were so important to who I am now. I wouldn’t trade them for anything!

    Molly // Miss Molly Moon

    1. Thanks Molly!

  14. I spent the two years before I met my now husband being single and it was honestly such an eye-opening time in my life. I’m so thankful for those two years because I was able to really find myself.

    1. That’s awesome!!

  15. Love this post! I’m not single but feeling the pressure of taking the next steps can be frustrating.

  16. I’m not single (married), but I was single for the majority of college. I loved being single – in fact, the night my now-husband and I became official, I had JUST been out to dinner with a galpal and told her how happy and content I was being single (even though I had a crush on Tom!). We got engaged the fall after graduating, but even then, we didn’t live together and my best friend and I lived in apartment together while we worked our first out-of-college jobs and planned our weddings. It was one of the happiest years of my life and I wouldn’t trade it for anything!
    Also, I have met SO many people who met their spouses online… it seems like I know MORE marriages that started online than ones that started off! Such a cool thing.

    1. That’s such a great story!!

  17. I’m not single and soon not going to be in my 20’s but this is great advice for those that are!

  18. Love this post, Anna! I think being single is a great learning experience.

    1. Thanks Carly!

  19. These are such great tips! I think the first one is the best. One must love themselves before they love anyone else.

    1. So true! Thanks for reading Alexis!

  20. lol fellow expert on singledom here, agree with all of these! dating apps are the worst and I’m honestly shocked that they’re still a thing haha x

    1. Haha same here!

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